A home birth & a new life

March 28, 2011 · 22 comments

Welcome Baby Girl!

Welcome to the world!

Today I have to write a tribute to my friend, who gave birth to her daughter yesterday at home.

Her first child was born at the hospital, and while it was an unmedicated birth, there wasn’t much natural about it. It was a difficult experience that had long-term ramifications with breastfeeding and her well-being.

You can read about it here and here (it’s long, but it’s worth bookmarking and taking the time).

This time around, she wanted things to be different:

  • She chose a home birth, which she and her husband paid for out-of-pocket.
  • She drove 80 miles one-way for each of her prenatal appointments with her midwife.
  • She dealt with a local physician who refused to be her backup doctor, and asked her to bring her husband in so he could discuss the wisdom of birthing at home with him. (You can read about that here.)
  • She only got one ultrasound, earlier than expected, because her car, with her and her family in it, was hit by a driver who ran a red light. So even though she wanted to know the sex of her baby, she didn’t want to expose them to unnecessary radiation without a medical reason and chose not to have more.
  • Her due date came and went. She dealt with all the questions, concerns, and worrying like a champ (at least on the outside).
  • And yesterday at 42 weeks and 2 days, she gave birth to a 10lb 8oz baby girl. At home. In the water.  Just like she wanted to.

So I have to give her a huge shout-out.

It is really, really hard to be different sometimes. People look at you funny, they act like you’re nuts, and you come to a point where you wonder if you’re really doing the right thing.

But if deep down you know yourself, and you trust the process, and you take those deep breaths and allow it to happen . . . it does.

I’m so, so proud of you, Brandy. I’m so glad you found me, and I’m honored that I could share part of this journey with you. Congratulations on the new addition to your family!

Photo credit: GraceFamily on Flickr

 

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1 Regan March 28, 2011

Congratulations Brandy! I am so inspired by you, and so happy for your family! I’d like to echo what Suchada said- I am so glad I met you (you too Suchada!) because it is so nice to meet kindred souls, especially ones who encourage you to follow your own path ans ESPECIALLY in a place where those kindred souls are hard to come by.

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2 ~Jeanie. March 29, 2011

Amen, Regan. I am adding YOU to My List along with Brandy & Suchada!

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3 Alex March 28, 2011

Awesome story, hit close to heart I know how that is. I am also shooting for a home birth, my first and hopping that everything goes nice and smoothly.
I am happy to hear that your friend was able to get what she wanted! :)

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4 Suchada @ Mama Eve March 28, 2011

Thanks Alex! I’ll be thinking of you — I hope you have the birth you want! Please let me know how it goes! :)

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5 Larissa March 28, 2011

Oh, congrats to her! I’m glad everything went well. One thing, though: you mention in your post that she didn’t want to expose her daughter to radiation from the ultrasound. But ultrasound doesn’t involve any radiation; it uses sound waves.

But BIG congrats to her and her healthy birth! What a wonderful story!

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6 Suchada @ Mama Eve March 28, 2011

You’re right Larissa, ultrasound isn’t electromagnetic, ionizing radiation. However, using waves for imaging is considered radiation (with less-studied, but known effects: http://www.centrus.com.br/DiplomaFMF/SeriesFMF/doppler/capitulos-html/chapter_02.htm )

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7 Olivia March 28, 2011

WOW! How amazing! I had read the “Part One” of her experience with Dr. Miller and I have to say I was not shocked. But especially after reading the rest of it…just WOW. I am not a fan of Miller at all (or Karrol for that matter, or Ridgecrest Hospital). Here I am 40 weeks 4 days ; STILL pregnant…waiting waiting waiting, and a little nervous and slightly terrified of what my hospital experience here will be like.
Thanks for sharing this amazing story! I’m glad that things worked out for your friend!

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8 Suchada @ Mama Eve March 28, 2011

Thanks Olivia! I hope things go well for you.

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9 Alicia C. March 28, 2011

Thank you so much for bringing her story to my attention! I had all of those obstacles, too, and too the “easy” route – a hospital birth that I didn’t have to pay out-of-pocket for. :(
It is so great to read such an inspirational story! I’ll be passing this on to pregnant friends everywhere!

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10 Suchada @ Mama Eve March 28, 2011

Thank you Alicia! Even though home birth isn’t right for everyone, I hope anyone who reads this takes away the trust part — trusting your body and trusting your caregivers. Every woman deserves that!

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11 Carolyn Hastie March 28, 2011

“It is really, really hard to be different sometimes. People look at you funny, they act like you’re nuts, and you come to a point where you wonder if you’re really doing the right thing”

So easy to be undermined when everyone else seems to be going the other way! I love the saying “1% of people think; 2% of people think they think and 97% of people would rather die than think” that about sums it up. It’s actually good to be different, it shows you are thinking.

Great post as always Suchada, thanks for sharing this inspiring story. I really like the ultrasound link too, thanks for that.

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12 Suchada @ Mama Eve March 28, 2011

Thank you Carolyn; I’m so glad you enjoyed it!

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13 Emily March 28, 2011

I love it! Congratulations to Brandy and her family. I wonder if she will be sending a birth announcement to her former OB. ;)

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14 Brandy March 31, 2011

Laughing out loud. Seriously.

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15 Tiffany March 29, 2011

yay Brandy!!! I am so happy for you! Thank you for all of your wonderful advice, I can’t wait to experience it all!

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16 ~Jeanie. March 29, 2011

Congratulations, Brandy!! Enjoy all the sweet mothering time with your new baby girl!

hugs,
~jeanie.
(LLL)

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17 Melanie March 30, 2011

Congrats to Brandy! I’ve enjoyed following her journey through her blog, thanks for the update. :)

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18 Brandy March 31, 2011

This is so sweet. Thank you. I’m very thankful for your friendship and the encouragement you’ve given me the past nine (ahem, plus!) months!

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19 Brynna June 9, 2011

I know this is old, but that is awesome!! Way to go and congratulations!!!! My “little” guy wasn’t quite that big (he was 9lbs 10oz) but his head was 15.5″ AND I think he was asynclictic, making for an interesting unassisted homebirth!

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20 Gabrielle May 1, 2013

I know I’m a few years late on this post, but I’m floored about the similarities in pregnancy situations — I’ve also been driving a hair over 80 miles one way to have prenatal appointments with my midwife; and will probably be into/over week 42 (currently in week 41) before baby girl makes her appearance… at home, probably in water.

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21 Suchada @ Mama Eve May 1, 2013

I hope you have a lovely birth, Gabrielle! Sending you lots of good wishes and calm <3

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