What do you do when other parents force their kids to share?

March 14, 2011 · 41 comments

A prized tricycle is hard to share

A prized tricycle is hard to share

Last week I took my sons to the playground, and when we arrived, another boy was there with his tricycle. My oldest son went towards it like a laser, his attention diverted from everything else.

The other boy, naturally, ran back towards his toy, and vehemently said, “NO THAT’S MINE!!”

I stopped my son, told him that his friend didn’t want to share right now. He had to find something else to play with. He fussed for a minute, but started looking around for something else interesting.

But then . . .

The boy’s grandparents insisted my son ride the tricycle. They told their grandson he had to share, to stop crying, to let others play with his toys. And then they pried him off his bike and held it out for us.

I told them, no, Sebastian wanted to hang on to it right now. My son could wait until he wanted to share, or he could play with other things the whole time we were there. I didn’t want Sebastian to be forced to give up his precious toy.

But before I could say anything else, or move away, the grandmother pushed the tricycle towards us, and the grandfather lifted my son up, and put him on the seat. My son was thrilled, but Sebastian wailed.

I felt terrible.

I let him ride for a few minutes, and then told him it was time to give the toy back to his friend (who had stopped crying, but was silently watching my son, looking glum). Whining ensued.

The grandparents again insisted my son continue to ride, and now the grandfather pushed my son up and down the sidewalk, showing him how to move his legs to push the pedals (which he’s not yet strong enough to do — before he moved the bike by pushing his feet against the ground, and was perfectly happy with that).

None of these were things I would normally do with my children. It made me uncomfortable, but the couple meant well, and were friendly, generous, and kind. I didn’t know what to do, or say.

I ended up not saying anything, and let them play with my boys. I didn’t even say anything to my son afterwards, I don’t think. I was so flustered, I just didn’t know what to do.

What do you think? What would you have done? Is there any way to avoid situations like this or turn them into teaching moments for our kids?

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1 Amy G March 14, 2011

I would love to know the answer to this. I have a friend who does this frequently with her 3 yr old and my 2 yr old. You’d think I would come up with a good plan, but nothing yet.

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2 Marilia March 14, 2011

That´s a tough one, because it´s obviously the sweet coupple there needing a lesson, more than the kids.

I guess there is little we can do in a situation like this, just wait for it to be over, I guess. Especially because there is little time for you to connect with the coupple and try to engage in some conversation about how you feel about situations like this.

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3 Suchada @ Mama Eve March 14, 2011

That’s so true, Marilia! In a single encounter like this I was so flustered — they were so kind and open, and I didn’t want to rebuff their enthusiasm. With people I see more often it’s easier for me to start a conversation and talk about my point of view, and try and find a solution that works for all of us.

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4 janetlansbury March 14, 2011

Super awkward! I’m at a loss, too. And I can see how after all of that, it would be hard to know what to say to the boys. There probably wasn’t anything you could say that they didn’t already know, i.e., “Those nice people do things a little differently. That boy didn’t want you to use the trike, but the grandparents did.”

Maybe you could have stopped the grandpa with, “I don’t want him riding the trike, but THANK YOU VERY MUCH!” But, I honestly don’t know if I would have been able to do that, having a big soft spot for elderly people myself.

The main thing to keep in mind is that isolated incidents like these don’t effect the wonderful way you are raising your boys. You and your husband are the ones with the powerful influence on your children, and it’s your “steady diet” of behavior responses that matter, not the occasional hot fudge sundae. :)

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5 Suchada @ Mama Eve March 14, 2011

I like this response, Janet. I want to acknowledge to my children when people are well-intentioned, because this couple absolutely was, even if they make choices I’m not comfortable with. I guess in the end it comes down to setting boundaries, but it’s truly an art to establish them and be gracious at the same time.

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6 Peggy Herring March 14, 2011

I would kindly say to the Grandparent that “children at this age just don’t understand what sharing is about, thank you, but let your grandson enjoy his tricycle my son will be fine, no really I insists.” Then take your son off the tric. and walk away.

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7 Heather March 14, 2011

Well If you felt uncomfortable from the start there was a reason for having those feelings and quickly acting tactfully is a challenge at times like those. After a few moments you could have gone over and physically picked up your son, while holding him have said to the old folks thank you so much for sharing but I really want my boys to be able to run and play together while were here so they can get out all that extra energy. Then you could take your son over to Sebastian and say ‘thank you so much for being such a big boy and sharing your cool bike! You are a great friend!” in a very positive and reinforcing tone. You were able to see the young boys emotions while they were not. In that situation I think it would be your responsibility to verbally sooth his hurt feelings, not tell him that he doesn’t have to share because that is not your responsibility to set rules for him BUT you can make him feel better about the situation. The old people had manners on their mind and it was very kind but by doing so the hurt their grandson.

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8 Suchada @ Mama Eve March 14, 2011

Oh, these are some interesting perspectives!

I did tell Sebastian how much I appreciated him sharing with my son, and offered to let him ride my son’s scooter (normally a prized toy, but the pain of sharing was lessened while he was occupied with the tricycle), which he did happily. If he had continued to be very upset I would have cut the encounter much shorter.

The grandparents were exceptionally friendly people, visiting from out-of-town for the birth of another grandchild. I enjoyed chatting with them, and they took great joy in interacting not just with their grandson, but my boys as well. Isn’t it strange how some situations are more difficult to navigate when people have the best intentions?

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9 Rebekah March 14, 2011

Happens a lot… when my kids are the one’s who are after something… I remind them that they have to ask if they can have a turn, and that we will respect the person they are asking (if the kid says no- which honestly doesnt happen too much if my kids ask before they are on the toy, kids just need a moment to think about it and to be reassured that it’s a turn and not ‘taking’ I find wording is so important with my kids. But if the kid says no I remind them of something they don’t like to share and say it’s like that.)

As for the Grandparents… You have to be forceful when you say no worries but thank you for the offer and then move your little one over to the swings or another area… and get him engaged quickly. Smile over to let them know no hard feelings… and if play should bring you back over… then you just say… about earlier… I’m trying to teach my son that feelings are valid… and so we don’t like to force things on him or anyone else and how much you appreciated how willing they were to share… I think when people are nice it’s easier to explain to them why… and if they look at you in that shocked ‘wow she’s crunchy’ kind of way… you just say- this is what has worked for us to ensure the least amount of stress.

Later when they are in the car- they may talk about the ‘hippy’ and tisk tisk… but it will give them something to think about the next time they try to force Little S to do something?

In my efforts to head my kids off… before we get out of the van we always have a game plan and talk about what we will do if the swings or slide are busy… and some behaviors (such as throwing sand) are discouraged by saying sand stays where? I make it a game as much as I can.

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10 Kendra March 14, 2011

Depends on where teh grandparents are coming from. Is sharing an issue they are working with grandson right now? My kids are 15 months apart and as soon as my daughter started crawling we had to start working on sharing. My son is a very easy going child so it was mostly very easy for him ,not so much for my girl so sometimes at the park we did have encounters where she didn’t want to she her toys and I had to explain to her.
They only thing that these grand parents did that made me uncomfortable was not comforting the littl guy once he seemed sullen.
A simple stmt of now that a good friend taking turns or some praise at the mention of how well he was sharing would have served to bolster him up while helping him realize it is only temporary.
But again having had the ,for lack of a better term, “stingy” child I do understnad how frustrating it is to teach sharing to a child who just wants to say MINE.
8 years later she now shares very well…most of the time, but we struggled.:-)

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11 Kathleen (amoment2think) March 14, 2011

Wow. That is a hard one. Especially when you know that the Grandparents had the best of intentions. I think I would have probably let it slide, felt uncomfortable and then reminded myself after that one incident isn’t the end of the world. But I would have wanted to do something positive and assertive, as some of the other commenter’s suggested.

This post also made me think about how we view others with different parenting styles. Isn’t it interesting that when you see someone that you have some interaction with (as you mentioned, a nice conversation) you can see very clearly that they have the best of intentions. And yet, online, when we are faced with those with different parenting styles we sometimes don’t make the same assumptions. (I am not saying you, I am saying in general this is sometimes a mistake made online in general parenting discourse). We sometimes assume the worst, rather then the best, of others. I know this is totally off topic…. I just started thinking….

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12 Jespren March 14, 2011

When this happens to me I usually pull out some cool toy of my sons and offer it to the little one being forced to share. “Share and share alike” right? Either the tyke will be interested in one of Thomas’s cool toys, or Thomas will abandon his new found interest in the interests of protecting ‘his’ toy. To which I say ‘you where playing with his toy so he gets to play with yours’, usually resulting in Thomas going and getting the contested item and giving it back to the playmate. Usually they pleasantly swap back to have their own favorite toy.
I wouldn’t have been overly concerned about the grandparents, if they want to play with my boy, I can keep an eye on their grandson while they burn off some of my toddler’s massive enegry stores. But then, I’m a country kid that tends to trust people (anyone else read the freerange kids blog?).
It sounds like you did what I think works best, as you mentioned in a previous comment that you offered your son’s scooter to the boy. So ultimately i’d just recommend a deep breath! It’s nothing to get worried about. If you happen to strike up a conversation with the parent/grandparent while the kids are playing you can always mention after the fact that you usually don’t force sharing since you like to let them work it out by themselves. You might open up a new door for them (or in the case of grandparents, an old door that had been forgotten since most in that generation did let their own kids have free reign to work out their own problems)

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13 TinkAe March 14, 2011

“…(anyone else read the freerange kids blog?).” Well ,I do now. Thanks!!

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14 Miven Trageser March 14, 2011

That whole experience sounds like an exercise in graceful surrender. I don’t see any preferable option to what you did, given the context and all the complicating factors. As far as a teaching moment, I would look at talking about it more as a chance for you and your boys to settle back in together after a disorienting experience. I find that speaking from a first-person, neutral and simple perspective at a time like that opens up space for conversation. Maybe you could say “wow. That was difficult for me. Sebastian was really upset. I didn’t know what to do.” You’re not asking the boys to do or say anything back. You’re just sharing what that experience was like for you without making anyone wrong, and that can create an open space for them to reflect too.

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15 Suchada @ Mama Eve March 14, 2011

Miven, I love this simple reminder. I often forget that I don’t need to have all the answers, and it’s good to acknowledge that to our children. I’m storing that away for the next situation where I’m stumped!

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16 janetlansbury March 14, 2011

Miven, your suggested reflective response to the boys is simple, beautiful, honest, perfect. Thank you!

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17 TinkAe March 14, 2011

Miven, you hit the nail on the head :)

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18 Vanessa March 15, 2011

I have enjoyed reading your blog Suchada. I don’t often comment but Miven’s response was so lovely, as was your reply. I wish more parenting advice sources said just that, the we don’t need to have all the answers part and the reflecting part.

With these grandparents. The child is most likely still loved and will grow up just fine and different isn’t always as bad as we feel it is. It was a real eye opener for me to see family who had completely opposite parenting style but had these wonderful children with such strong family bonds! In our house a lot of energy is put into helping our children feel protected and strong, confident, happy ect . . . but sometimes saying and doing less can be just as meaningful!

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19 Shannon March 14, 2011

This always catches me off guard when something like this happens! I absolutely feel for you and you did the best you could. My wits come a little quicker each time and I get a little slicker in my reply. :-)

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20 Christy @ pureMotherhood March 14, 2011

I think that this one experience won’t ruin what you’re trying to teach your child. Don’t be so hard on yourself. We’re not going to make ‘perfect’ decisions every time and for the most part, our children will grow up into healthy functioning adults. Let it go.

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21 Suchada @ Mama Eve March 14, 2011

Oh, I didn’t mean to come across as if I was beating myself up about it. I’m not! I actually had a very nice time with the family, as did my sons. I just wondered if anyone had a different solution for handling it, since it’s something that happens to many of us. I’m certain the impression of the family my sons came away with was positive, because they were all kind and generous. I even think Sebastian had a nice time in the end too, since he seemed to really enjoy my son’s scooter. I think if they hadn’t been so nice I would have been more likely go just go away and not worry about it anymore! :)

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22 Mike G March 14, 2011

It’s a bit hard to comment because it is not clear how old both children were. In my (rather limited) experience it is not worth explaining “sharing” if the child is under 2.5-3. But if the child is older it is time to start teaching sharing.

I also think most of you are missing a very important detail – tricycle’s owner was NOT riding it. He only wanted it when another child approached. As I mention above, based on the age of the child, grandparents did the right thing – in my opinion

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23 Suchada @ Mama Eve March 14, 2011

Mike, we come from different perspectives. The reason the interaction bothered me was because I believe (and have seen many times) children share spontaneously, without having to be forced or taught. My son is 2.5, and Sebastian is 3.

I don’t force my children to share their toys partially because of their young age, but mostly because I want them to have ownership and responsibility for their lives. I ask my children to clean up their toys because they are their toys . . . so how would it make sense if I then forced them to give them up to other people?

Consider if the tricycle was your car. I would come running up and claim ownership of my car if a stranger got in the driver’s seat and turned it on while I was standing nearby. I don’t mind letting a friend borrow my car if they asked, but I would want to know and trust the person first. I think it’s important to extend that respect to children and give them the opportunity to interact, get to know each other, and decide on their own when they’re ready to share their toys. Time and again I’ve seen children who are allowed to work it out on their own graciously share and return toys without any adult coercion.

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24 Emily March 15, 2011

I love how you made this parallel to an adult situation. A great reminder that our little ones have ‘big people’ feelings.

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25 Tama August 18, 2011

My family was recently in a situation where another parent (good friend of mine) and her daughter (7) were upset because my daughter (8) didn’t want to share something. They felt she should “have” to share it b/c she wasn’t playing with it. I felt that she should have the choice whether she was playing with it at the time or not. Hurt feelings… misunderstandings b/c each parent has different expectations… My child has choices in such situations and her daughter doesn’t (so according to her daughter, my daughter is “mean” and “stingy”.)

I compared it to having gone into the house to bring my friend’s expensive camera outside to snap photos of all the kids playing without asking her permission. My husband says it’s not the same b/c taking a toy (valued at $7) w/out permission is different than taking a camera (valued at $1000) w/out permission. I see what he’s saying, but disagree. The monetary value is of no consequence to the child. They want their wishes and their rights to their property to be respected.

I encourage my children to share by talking about how the other child is feeling, how they would feel in the situation, about a time when someone shared w/ them and how much they appreciated it. THEN they still have the right to decide. Taking their things and giving to another child is NOT the same thing as that child sharing. It’s stealing from one child and giving to another. I don’t like that a bit.

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26 Chlomom December 2, 2012

Imagine this from a kids perspective, you got the best, shiniest trike that you have wanted for sooooo long. You put this on your Santa list and crossed your fingers and the feeling of triumph and utter joy you felt when you saw the trike under the tree. You said you would take care of this trike and you ride it everyday. You go to the park everything is just going great, yopu step off your trike for a break (he was still near the bike remember) and some stranger kid tries to take your prized trike and you say well why should be get my bike just because he wants it. What if I want his shoes, do I get to just hold out my hands. I say no because I don’t want him riding MY toy. Your grandparents take your bike out of your hands and tell you to suck it up. Just becaus they are bigger they can take your bike and give it away. They wrench it out of your hands and give it to the thieving brat kid. Why can he have your toy because you want it. Tell me now, is this fair

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27 Suchada @ Mama Eve December 3, 2012

This whole post is about looking at things from a child’s perspective. “Thieving brat kid”? Might want to find another site if that’s your idea of empathy.

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28 Lisa Sunbury March 14, 2011

Wow, what a difficult situation, and what a great discussion here. Suchada, I completely understand how hard this must have been for you, and why you were at a loss as to how to respond. Under the circumstances, I think you did the best you could do. Unfortunately, it’s all too common to run into this kind of situation at the park. Sometimes there is no graceful way to handle it.

I’ve had lots of practice with this kind of situation working as a teacher and a nanny of young children. I believe children are learning every moment, and they need consistent modeling and messages from their caring adults. Sometimes, we don’t know how to respond or we make mistakes, and that’s OK (and very human). Perfection makes for a lousy role model for children too! I love what Miven said above, about simply acknowledging to your son afterward “That was hard for me. I didn’t know what to do.”

I also like Janet’s suggestion to say something to your son along the lines of “Sebastian didn’t want you to use his bike, but his grandparents did. People sometimes have different ways of doing or thinking about things.”

If it’s OK, I”d like to use the example you gave to share how I approach situations like this. In any public place, I stay close to the children I am caring for, and I verbalize what I see happening, narrating the action. I focus on talking directly to the children around me ( both those I’m caring for, and others who happen to be nearby).

So in the scenario you have mentioned, as your son moved towards the other child’s bike, I would have moved with him, saying, “Oh, you see that tricycle, and it looks like you want to have a ride on it. I’m not sure if that bike belongs to someone here. It’s OK with me if you take a ride on the bike, but the little boy or girl the bike belongs to might not want to share the bike.”

When the other child ran to the bike saying “NO, That’s mine.” I ‘d get down close and say, “Oh this bike is yours. I hear you saying you don’t want to let anyone ride it right now.” Then to your son, “Sebastian doesn’t want anyone to ride his bike right now. I know you really wanted to try it out,
but it’s like when you don’t want anyone to ride your scooter. Sometimes you have a special toy and it’s just too hard to share. What else can you find to play with?”

A lot of times this is enough to allow the children to move on without anyone being upset, and other adults don’t feel like they have to step in.
It also supports both children, while leaving the problem solving up to them. You are not telling your son what to do, but modeling, and giving him information to help him make good choices. Both children are being listened to and validated.

If well meaning adults step in and try to force the issue, and it doesn’t work to thank them, and move away, (as happened in your case) I’d again focus on and talk to the children. I’d say to Sebastian, ” You seem really upset. You really didn’t want to share your trike. It can be hard to let someone take a turn using a special toy. Your Grandma and Grandpa are trying to help you learn how to share. I’m sorry you are feeling sad.” (Again, validating the child’s feelings, without unduly alienating the grandparents.)

After your son had had a bit of time to ride, I’d say, “Sebastian has been waiting patiently while you had a ride on his bike. Now it’s time for you to choose something else to play with.” I’d thank Sebastian, and move away.

If the adults persisted at this point (as the grandparents did) I’d become very firm, saying, “Thank you so much for your kindness, but my son has had a turn, and it’s time for Sebastian to have his bike back.”

I wouldn’t offer the scooter to Sebastian, because the scooter belongs to your son, and it’s up to him to offer it or not. Children have to first be able to identify, claim and hold onto what is theirs, before they can learn to let go and share of their own will. If adults make the choices for the children, it is a betrayal of sorts, and doesn’t teach the children to share- it may teach the children that the adults are in charge, and get to make the choices, and their feelings don’t matter. It may also teach children that we don’t trust them to work these situations for themselves. ( I don’t mean to sound harsh here. I often ask myself “What messages do I want to give the children I’m caring for? What messages might they receive if I do/say this as opposed to this?”)

To Mike G., who pointed out that Sebastian wasn’t riding the bike, and didn’t get upset until someone else wanted to ride it, I would ask you to consider this question: If your car was parked by the park, and I decided I wanted to take a spin in it, would that be OK, since you weren’t using it anyway? (I’m guessing the answer is “No.” If I decided to take a spin anyway, without your permission, because Suchada said it would be OK with her, my guess is you might call the police).

Suchada, you are such a wonderful, sensitive Mom, and I really admire the way you are grappling with these important questions!

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29 Suchada @ Mama Eve March 14, 2011

Thanks so much Lisa! I love this detailed reply. I didn’t feel quite right about offering my son’s scooter (I actually first asked him, quietly, as I was down on his level if it would be ok). But my son said no, the grandparents overheard the suggestion, and then asked Sebastian if he wanted to ride it. It all happened so quickly and they were so well intentioned. In the end it worked out, and both boys were happy, but it would have been more empowering to both of them to figure out a way to interact with each other and offer their prized toys themselves. Reading these suggestions and “rehearsing” scenarios in my head makes me feel more prepared for the next time this occurs!

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30 Babybumpbeyond Heather March 14, 2011

I probably wouldhave thanked them for the offer, and then said that I was teaching my kids the same lesson about sharing-that it isn’t always your turn.
If they had insisted, I would have told my child that they are letting her take her turn now, and that later would be the other kid’s turn.
I’m really surprised that they insisted even after your son had a turn and you went to play with something else.
I’m sure this event will have little to no effect, being thatit only happened once, but it would have been nice if they followed your lead when it came to your children.

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31 Imogen @ Alternative Mama March 15, 2011

Ack, it’s such a hard one… I’ve found myself in that situation a couple of times with good friends and I’ve never known what to do at the time. The rule in our home re: sharing is that no kid ever has to share what they are playing with if they don’t want to. theres been a couple times when one of Jack’s friends has picked up a toy and Jack suddenly decides he wants it, and he’s had to deal with it. He cries, and i hug him and help him work through his frustration and that’s fine, but then the other parent (a good friend of mine) will force her kid to give the toy to Jack. Then of course her kid gets upset and i feel like she is expecting me to make Jack give the toy back after a predisposed period of time. ugh.

the way i have handled it is bringing up the subject of sharing and how we deal with it at a completely different time so she knows how we feel, but obviously that wouldnt work with strangers.

I think you handled it brilliantly.

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32 Melissa @ The New Mommy Files March 15, 2011

Thank you for sparking this great discussion, Suchada! I don’t think I can add anything that has not been covered by someone already, but I am so glad to have read this post and the discussion that followed. Dealing gracefully with other adults can be far more difficult than dealing with children, and it’s something I really struggle with. I’m thankful for the ideas!

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33 Olivia March 15, 2011

I just personally think it’s a situation to situation sort of thing, like so many other things. Which can be confusing to the children, and can be even more confusing to us as mother’s, especially since children (especially at this young age), don’t understand that in different situations, “rules” may be a bit different. But I do think it is important that they learn these things from situation to situation.
I think it just takes each and every one of us being very attentive to what is going on around us and around our children at the park; which I know you do well : D

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34 Robin March 16, 2011

As always I love to read what you have to say. I have been in a similar situation at the park by my house. However it wasn’t the sharing aspect that bothered me it was when the Grandmother picked up my 2 year old son without asking me. She put him in a wagon and pushed him down a hill. I was terrified as I pictured a not good ending. I went running down the hill to meet my son. I think sometimes there is a forgotten courtesy to ask before doing something. Just as another parent pointed out just allow the trike owning child to make the decision most likely he would have said yes. But kids do not like things forced upon them as adults ate the same way.

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35 Miss Roxie April 25, 2011

Hello,
I just stumbled across your blog and realize this post isn’t recent but …

anyway, I am a grandmother (mother, aunt, great aunt, etc.) and I have taken many children to the park. You have a lot of good advice here, but here is what I do when I go to the park with small children — whomever I take is always told ‘let’s bring something we can share, just in case’. That way we are always ready, as best we can be, to offer something should we be not wanting to give up our own things to someone we don’t know. As the kids get a little older, I always reminded them that someone will want to play with whatever they have and discuss how they might handle this. Age appropriate discussions, you know, kids get used to this stuff if you start early.
We even bring extra snacks to share if we will be eating near anyone. One of my nephews, to whom sharing did not come easy, found out that having extra snacks is powerful for making friends! LOL. After he made this discovery, he was always insistent that we must bring something to share and would run from the car yelling, ‘kids, kids, I have food!!!’ Okay, well, I thought it was funny…he was 3 then.
Anyway, parks are a great prep for real life. Usually, the way you treat people ends up to be the way you are treated. There were days we had tough lessons. But, like you, I didn’t care for the feeling of making kids share, but knew I had to handle this interaction with other children, who perhaps didn’t know about sharing either, in some way.

In the specific case of Sebastian, I would have erred on the side of Sebastian’s right to say no to someone riding his trike and then told my own little guy that he would have to play with something else. (I wouldn’t have fussed had he cried about it, just moved on) I would have overridden what the nice elderly people had to say. But you see, I’m past 60 now, I can do that! When I was younger I would have thought I shouldn’t without coming off as being disrespectful.
Either way, it’s a teachable moment. Win-win. We will never understand all people.
My granddaughter has just turned 2. Learning boundaries….what a task!! LOL. She will share what she has but is totally puzzled by children who don’t want to do that. It makes me laugh sometimes. She does not think this is funny. Children are so precious. I love them all.

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36 Suchada @ Mama Eve April 26, 2011

Those are all very helpful tips, Miss Roxie! Thanks so much for sharing :)

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37 Rachel December 30, 2011

I enjoyed reading this (and your whole website – made me laugh, made me go a-ha YES)…I have an 11 month old boy, and I have been considering ‘sharing’ for a few months now.
And I realise, what is important to me is that my son learns to be cooperative, to share – but I really dont know the best way to go about that.
After reading this article I wanted to know more about why you felt uncomfortable about the little boy being ‘forced’ to share. I assume it is because his feelings/emotions werent’ respected…but I would love it if you could discuss the ‘sharing’ thing a bit more.
I find myself getting so concerned about my son when kids dont share with him…and of late I am thinking that it is some part of my past that is coming up to make me react…and that kids need to learn some of this stuff themselves……so yes, would love to hear more!

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38 Suchada @ Mama Eve December 30, 2011

I would love to write more about sharing! The last year has been eye-opening for me. Look for a new post soon!

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